Time and time again, I get asked “How did you get into Burlesque?” No one ever asks, “How did you get into Stripping?” The assumption seems to be that women don’t decide to get into stripping, the same way they do Burlesque. Clearly, no woman would choose to work in a strip club without some sort of external factor, like finances, drugs or an over-bearing man in your life. With these assumptions come a lot of myths and stereotypes about Stripping, Burlesque and the types of women who choose them.

Well, I have a few confessions and the first one is that I love being both a Burlesque Dancer & a Stripper.

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CONFESSIONS OF A BURLESQUE DANCER & STRIPPER

HOW I WENT FROM CARDIGANS & DRESS PANTS TO GLITTER & G-STRINGS
I discovered Burlesque shortly after getting out of an emotionally and at times physically abusive relationship. I was at a place in my life I never thought I would be. After seeing Burlesque live for the first time at Duane Park in NYC, I knew instantly this is what had been missing from my life. An environment that would allow me to be the woman I was shamed for being in my last relationship. An overtly sexual woman. Immediately I went online and started googling burlesque new york city and I found The New York School of Burlesque. After a few classes, Dottie Dynamo was born. I juggled the day job/night gig lifestyle for 2 1/2 years before I started working in a strip club.

Stripping I got into for the sheer fun and freedom that came with it. On the occasional Friday night a handful of friends and I would go to Pumps Bar and fell in love with everything about the place. The girls take their stage tips between their breasts and I remember thinking to myself, I want to do that. So, a year later I auditioned and started working the Saturday day shift while maintaining my 9-5 Monday thru Friday.  It was a year into juggling my day job, burlesque and stripping when I had reached my boiling point of misery at my day job and I quit. I knew I could pick up extra shifts at the club while I figured things out. It’s been 3 years now and I’ve been Stripping full time for two. Time has gone by faster than I ever expected. While I don’t intend to strip forever, I’m happier and have the freedom to travel for Burlesque in a way that wasn’t possible with a day job.

Confessions of a Burlesque Dancer & Stripper

I HAVE NO AND I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NO DANCE BACKGROUND
There seems to be an occasional misconception that Burlesque Dancers all have some formal dance or theatre training. While quite a few people come from a dance background and have been dancing most of their lives, it’s in no way a requirement. I couldn’t tell you what 1st position in ballet is and counting out my music for choreography, is downright laughable most of the time. Being confident and captivating is more important on stage than years of dance training.

IT’S NOT AS GLAMOROUS AS THE PHOTOS
All those glittery, glamorous photos you see on Facebook & Instagram, that’s the shiny side of the coin. The flip side, that’s where the real glamour is. That is, of course, if you consider putting your bare feet on bar bathrooms glamourous. This may not be the case everywhere but when I say dressing room, what I really mean is a bathroom, a liquor closet or maybe even a small corridor off the kitchen of the venue. There will be oh so many occasions when there is no a/c in “dressing room” in  the summer or no heat in the winter. I hope you brought warm socks & a parka! Let’s not forget the schlep, life as a performer in New York means also being a pack mule and lugging heavy bags all over the city. Oh, and I hope you don’t have an aversion to peeing in front of your friends and fellow cast members. We are already in the bathroom, after all. 
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Confessions of a Burlesque Dancer & StripperPOLE TRICKS? YOU MEAN THOSE FOUR SPINS I CAN DO?
Before I quit my day job I was taking quite a few pole classes. I wanted to be able to do all those impressive pole tricks, I thought it was important to being a stripper. Well, like having a dance background for Burlesque it’s not vital to be able to do pole tricks to be a Stripper. What a relief because extensive pole tricks were out of the picture for me because of my herniated cervical disc. There are plenty of women I work with who flow like angels in the air when doing pole tricks. It’s mesmerizing to watch and customers will cheer and throw money in awe of sheer skill. Over three years working in a club, I’ve learned that just like while performing Burlesque the most important thing I can do is make eye contact. Engaging your audience, be it a theatre full of people or the one guy at the end of the bar does more than any pole trick. 

 I GET TO TRAVEL AND MEET AMAZING PEOPLE
As I mentioned before having a day job severely limited my ability to travel to perform in Burlesque Festivals. I wanted so badly to be a traveling showgirl. When I finally quit and started working more at the club I realized it opened up so many freedoms. Like making my own schedule and taking off work whenever I wanted. Now I’m able to apply to and attend festivals from New Mexico to Amsterdam and everywhere in between.I can take off for a week to go to Vegas every June for The Burlesque Hall of Fame and spend time with the legends. The women who paved the way for me to do exactly what I do. Be a Stripper. I’m able to reunite with and continue to grow my glitter tribe. The crazy cast of naked individuals I call family.

Confessions of a Burlesque Dancer & Stripper

I MAKE SO MUCH MONEY! – HA.
This one. Oh man, do I love the misconception that I’m loaded and never worry about money. Admittedly I work at the club 3 days a week, perform 5-10 shows a month and survive. While I may work fewer days a week, I have to make more money in a month than I did with my day job to have a similar style of living. The myth that strippers make thousands of dollars a night, is a thing of the past.Think more along the lines of an AVERAGE of 250 dollars on a weeknight and 400-600 on the weekend. Stripping is a game of averages. I can’t vouch for every stripper in every club in every city. I’ve only ever worked at one place but over three years the numbers haven’t changed that much.
 
The majority of Burlesque gigs I do pay a base rate of 40-70 dollars plus tips. I know! It’s so profitable!! Cash income may have perks but being paid under the table can also be more costly in the long run. I pay more for my Obama Care a month than I did health insurance thru my day job. No company is matching the amount I put into my IRA. Yes, I have an IRA. Let’s not forget about Self-Employment taxes. Yes, I also pay taxes. Plenty of Strippers don’t but I’d rather pay my $1,400 quarterly than whatever the IRS seems fitting when they track me down in ten years. Oh and no, I don’t get a tax return. Yes, I could work more days and not have weeks where I’m flat broke. But, I rarely see my friends and boyfriend as it is and a social life outside of work is vital.
Confessions of a Burlesque Dancer & Stripper

I DON’T HAVE ANY DADDY ISSUES
Are you ready for this confession? I have a great relationship with my father! Always have. This stereotype is one that never seems to fade. The constant idea behind women who do sex work because they are seeking some sort of validation from men that they never got from their father. I’m not going to come out and say this never happens, because, for some women it’s true. But not for all of us.In fact, it’s insulting to those of us who did have well-adjusted childhoods with loving parents and choose stripping as a job. So no, I don’t fit your stereotype. I’m a smart, college educated woman that recognizes my body and sexuality are a power and a beauty that I can get paid to express. So take your daddy issues and shove them.

STRIPPING IS HARD WORK
Oh, the number of times I’ve heard “Stripping isn’t like a real job, you just hang out and drink all night.”  Yes, drink tickets and customers buying you drinks are a perk of working in bars but that doesn’t make my job easy. While Burlesque is a bit easier on the night of a performance there are months of rehearsals and costuming that go into an act before ever hitting the stage. Stripping, stripping involves a lot more emotional labor. Being a sex worker is a lot like being a therapist, only you wear less clothing.

My typical night at work involves being, albeit a lot of time faking, perky, fun and interested in what the customer has to say. Once I walk thru those doors no one cares if I had a crappy day or if I’m in an off mood. Men and the occasional woman come to forget about and get away from their lives, they come for the fun and the fantasy. My job is to be sociable, entertaining and to deliver that fantasy. Not only is my body tired after 7 hours of walking and dancing in 7-inch platform heels, I’m mentally exhausted. 

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I LOVE MY JOB
Sure it has its ups and downs, every job does. But I don’t think it’s much of a confession at all that I love my job. Stepping off stage after an act and having people tell me I inspire them and what I do is amazing. I’m so grateful for that. The club I work at is quite possibly the best job I’ve ever had with the best group of bosses and coworkers. I love being an entertainer. I love the empowering feeling of invoking my rights as a woman to be a sexual creature. I love the fellow strippers, ecdysiasts, and performers I call friends. Whether I’m on a stage or not, I am a stripper. It’s who I’ve always been and Burlesque enabled me to fully embrace it. Plus no more waking up at 7am to begrudgingly go to an office job I hate and people I don’t fit in with. Nightlife people are my people. 

Confessions of a Burlesque Dancer & Stripper
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