I’ve been thinking about kids a lot lately. Maybe it’s the binge watching of Jane the Virgin I’ve been doing on Netflix. Or the influx of kids out playing on the sidewalks this weekend now that the temperatures in New York have hit the 90’s. But I know the underlying reason is it’s the biggest issue my boyfriend and I seem to butt heads on.
I used to want kids when I was younger and living in Indiana. I fantasized about that whole having a family and a yard and 2.5 kids crap. But then I moved to New York and sort of gained a whole new independence. A few years in I hit my stripper stride finding burlesque and eventually working as a club stripper.
Somewhere in that 10 years of leaving Indiana a dreamy inspired girl, my life and ideas about kids changed. I mostly blame all the bad parents and the out of control kids on the sidewalks and subways for my growing dislike of children. The less I became ga-ga over kids, the more I couldn’t really see them in the long distance picture of my life.
I’ve hit my thirties and it’s occurring more and more to me that I just don’t think I have that maternal drive. There seems to be no “clock ticking”. I’m not even sure I was given a clock. I don’t have the yearn for children that apparently the majority of women do. I find them more annoying than cute, with rare exceptions here and there.
And maternal clock aside, I don’t really see how kids fit into my life. I enjoy having to only really worry about myself (and my partner of course). The ability to stay out late and work nights. I like not having to worry about homework and temper tantrums and flying with a baby. Taking last-minute weekend trips to party with my brother. Weekend BBQ’s that end in adventures of nudity and pure ridiculous-ness.
I just don’t understand the appeal. I’m trying to though. Are you a performer, a stripper, a hustle mom? How do you do it? Did you seek out having kids, or did you like it goes in life, surprise! end up pregnant?
I want to hear your stories on parenting in an alternative lifestyle, how do manage to gig? to travel? to attend festivals? Has having children changed that? If you opted not to have kids in life, have you ever second guessed that decision?
- 1 1/2 - 2lbs Chicken Breast
- 1 4oz can green chiles
- 1 7oz can tomato sauce
- 1 15 oz can diced tomatoes (I opt for fire roasted)
- 2 garlic cloves, minced
- 1 medium yellow onion, chopped
- 1 green bell pepper, chopped
- 1 tbsp cumin
- 1 tbsp chili powder
- 1 tbsp coconut oil
- cilantro and avocado to garnish
- Get out your super time saving crockpot
- Add chicken breasts
- Add all other ingredients in whatever way you want
- Cook on low for 6-8 hours
- When finished shred chicken apart with tongs or forks
- Put stew in a bow, top with cilantro & avocado and enjoy!
- I like to serve on top of brown rice for a well balanced meal.